Are You Busy Judging?
Judging comes quite naturally to you and me. Are you busy judging people, be it your friends, people at work, or just a stranger? Then stop now! Let me start by stating a small, yet worthy personal incident. ‘She’s so full of attitude’, that’s the kind of judgement I made about an acquaintance, before she went on to become my best pal. Only if I had not realised that I had judged her too soon, I would have lost out on someone so precious. We’re the best of friends today and this incident made me realise what I was about to lose in life, all thanks to my quick judging skills. All you people there, recollecting similar incidents too? With this anecdote, I hope I have managed to give you an insight into what this article has in store for you. It’s purely my experience from this and some other similar episodes that have made me put forth this write up.
‘Don’t judge a book by its cover’, a very common proverb. Many of us in spite of understanding the meaning are unable to implement in our lives, why is it so? We, as humans have the tendency to judge people too soon, even before getting to know them and sometimes in the first glance or meeting itself. What’s the hurry? Why not give ourselves and people sometime before passing any judgments? Trust me; it’ll give us time to understand them better and probably judge them right too. Read More
The Blessed Act of Forgiveness!
The mistakes I have made form an important part of my journey called life. From some of these I learnt, while from some I failed to learn. I was forgiven by my parents, friends and colleagues for my flaws. If I was not forgiven then, it would be difficult to cope up with life. So I strongly believe that the key to happiness is to forgive and move on! It’s a simple approach to lead a worthy, joyful and burden free life. How is that? The quicker you master the art of forgiving, the lighter you will feel. Carrying grudges, anger, hatred and other such malicious feelings, are in the true sense, loads that are heavier than hauling physical weight. Freeing yourself of mental burden, requires time and understanding. As you move ahead in life, how long are you willing to and will you be able to carry this load?
Not many of us believe that forgiveness allows us to love people more in spite of their faults and also accept them the way they are. It’s not very easy to think beyond the emotion of being cheated and so I say forgiveness is an act of the strong because it requires some guts and strength to forgive. Understand that a person committed a mistake as a result of human failing. It is human to make mistakes, but forgiving is a sign of godliness. Each one of us is blessed with the strength to pardon, for only if we all realize that. Read More
Tolerance: A virtue worth possessing!
Tolerance is a quality which each one of us should possess to lead a better and stress free life. Tolerance has more to do with having acceptance of and giving respect to other people’s ideas and opinions. Don’t all of us want our views to be valued? Of course, yes. Then is it not obvious that others would expect that too? It’s a yes again. Tolerance and patience go hand in hand and it is tolerance that makes you patient towards other people’s behavior, ideas and attitude. Tolerance is an innate quality in some, while some others may be required to put in efforts to imbibe it.
Quite a few of us are so intolerant that we have no regards nor respect for other people. Imagine yourself being treated like that? You would hate it and dislike that person too. Remember, you can be that disliked person for someone else. Read More
Does Color Speak?
At the very start of this article, ‘colors speak’, I think it would be worthwhile mentioning that different colors ‘tend’ to mean different things. You may wonder as to why I am stressing on the word ‘tend’? That’s simply because a color by itself does not have any meaning. It is we who assign meanings to them and create an association between them and different things. This is also justified by the fact that even the same color ‘tends’ to have diverse meanings in different cultures. For instance, I’ll take white. While white is the color for nuptials in the United Sates, it is a color associated with mourning in some Eastern countries. Now two different colors can also have the same meaning for different people. For example, in several countries the color associated with death is black, while in some others, it is white.
Another interesting fact is that colors can be an indication of your mood. I have personally experienced this. On occasions I am happy, I naturally choose to wear bright colors such as pink, orange, yellow, while on gloomy days, I tend to opt for black, grey and the like. This is entirely based on my color associations at that point in time and you or anyone else, for that matter, may not think the same. You could possibly associate some other colors with happiness or sadness. We create meanings for colors, so the choice varies from person to person. Read More
The Freedom to Make Mistakes!
To begin with, the moment I use the word ‘mistake’, what comes to your mind first? Some of you may consider it to be a negative word, while some others a positive one. Isn’t it? For the positive thinkers, take me in, I with you. For the other set of people, who think it’s a negative word, read ahead and I hope to change your mindset (and of course bring in you people into my category too). As far as my interpretation is concerned, this 7 letter word, ‘mistake’, causes me to think, most importantly of the word ‘learning’ in addition to others like experimenting, growing, success and the like.
Freedom that does not give you liberty to commit mistakes, is it worth having? Be it any kind of decision, you’ll always have alternatives from which you need to choose. The freedom of making mistakes simply signifies that, genuine freedom is one where you can make a choice, albeit your selection results into a wrong decision. I would in fact go on say that, freedom where you can decide, but cannot make the wrong decision, is only a camouflaged form of freedom. Read More
Are you an extrovert or an introvert?
On the basis of behavior in their daily routine people are generally categorized in two categories i.e introvert and extrovert. We live in a world where communicating with people from different backgrounds, cultures and professions (depends on the nature of your profession) is must and we also need to take a lot of decisions at work as well as the personal front.
Communication is not only about using words and it holds true for decision making as well. When we communicate or make any decisions, there is an entire process which takes place inside us, on the basis of which we adopt that communication and decision making approach. So, our communication patterns are formed according to our personality. We cannot say which one is better than the other because every personality type adopts the patter that works the best for them, the existence of pros and cons cannot be denied though.
Our personality type is pretty much influenced by factors such as childhood teachings, the way people communicated when we were kids, socially acceptable as well as unacceptable ways of dealing with the outer world. Broadly, we categorize people as extraverted or introverted; however, everyone cannot be necessarily categorized as either of these. Some people may be a blend of these personality types as well. Read More
Think and speak!
I had to call up the customer care of my mobile service provider a few days ago, as I was unable to understand the phone bill. It was really annoying because I had to be in queue for a long time when I was at work. The same thing had happened 2 days before that as well, so it was even more frustrating. Anyway, I managed to get connected to a customer care executive. I really had a hard time as I had to ask him to slow down throughout the conversation. He was, no doubt very polite, but that’s not what I was interested in. I wanted him to slow down; so that I could understand the details I called out for. How many times it happens with you? On the top of it, the guy was using a lot of fillers. It wasn’t a very good experience so say the least, although the guy was sounded polite. How does talking fast affect your communication?
1. Disorganized communication:- You seem to be less confident when you speak fast because it gives an impression that you don’t want people to notice every word said by you. Read More
